Breaking Things Up
This is the sort of story you might have nightmares about if you know that your in-laws aren’t your biggest fans.
This mother-in-law took things a bit too far and even tried to convince her child not to marry their fiancé. As if that wasn’t bad enough, actively trying to convince them that they could get their money back on major bridal expenses is a pretty callous move.
When you reach 70 years old, it makes sense that you might want to celebrate. After all, it’s a big birthday when you hit seven decades! It would probably already sting not to be invited on the cruise in the first place.
However, it was what the OP’s husband revealed when he got home that really hurt. Why would you nag your son to divorce the person he’s been happily married to for two decades?
There are some things that parents tend to do for newborns. However, if someone else invited themselves to step into that position, it might be weird.
It would have been surprising enough if this person’s sister-in-law directly asked if she could breastfeed the baby. However, the whole picture here of the mother-in-law stepping in to try and coordinate this? Well, we can imagine it would create a rather awkward conversation.
Every once in a while, you really have to clean out your yard. Anybody can start to build up quite a bit of trash after some time if you don’t keep up with it.
However, most people take that trash and throw it in a garbage can or compost it. These in-laws decided it was a great chance to be petty, though. Rather than grabbing garbage bags, this person’s mother-in-law threw all the garbage she found in the OP’s car!
Not all in-laws are just mean to their legal relatives. Sometimes, their blood relatives suffer the brunt of their attitudes as well.
If this person couldn’t make it to the wedding it would have been disappointing but it seems like that wasn’t the whole of the situation here. As if that wasn’t enough, it’s pretty heartless to send your own child an itemized and “overdue” bill for all the things you’ve done for them over the years.
There are some things that are nothing but on purpose. As if talking in front of her daughter-in-law wasn’t enough, she made sure to make eye contact to really drive the point home.
The things that she said would hurt anybody’s feelings but the gall to lie about it afterward would be frustrating for everyone else involved. There’s really no way to interpret what happened here as “eavesdropping on a private conversation.” It was on speakerphone!
A lot of couples are ready to get excited when they’re expecting a new member of the family. These two were waiting to welcome their second son. It seems like they were delighted!
On the other hand, one grandma was being more than a little unreasonable. While you might have hope for whether you’re going to have a granddaughter or grandson, this reaction is unreasonable and it seems like at some point it becomes hurtful.
This Seems Impractical
Everyone wants their dream wedding with the perfect guest list. Sometimes, though, you have to make some sacrifices for practicality.
It seems like there was no way this couple would be able to invite all the people these in-laws wanted them to invite. They just couldn’t take no for an answer either. It’s hard to imagine exactly how chaotic a wedding would be by these suggestions, probably because it seems nearly impossible.
This Is Unforgivable
Loss is hard to deal with no matter who you lose. Losing a father or a husband are two losses that are especially hard to deal with.
During the time that you’re grieving, you might want to reach out to living family members. This person definitely didn’t have the chance to turn to their in-laws and these kids probably had their relationship with their aunt and grandma forever altered. Who does this?
There are some rules that everyone should follow. For instance, when you’re invited to a wedding, it isn’t the time to twin with the bride. In fact, the general rule of thumb is to not wear white at all.
That’s something that this person’s sister-in-law didn’t listen to when it came to their wedding day. It seems like she made sure to get in the pictures, too. All in all, it’s something this person can’t quite forgive her for.
Time to Let it Go
There are plenty of people who want and hope for grandchildren. At the end of the day, it’s not the same as deciding to have your own children. As much as you might want grandchildren, that choice is ultimately left up to the would-be parents.
That’s a lesson that this mother-in-law would do well to learn. Not to mention, what is arguing going to accomplish when their minds are made up? They’re the ones who would be raising a child!
A Bit Much
There seem to be a lot of mothers who feel a bit threatened by their daughters-in-law. However, some instances really stand out as strange. This one really stands out as an uncomfortable moment.
All this person did when their husband was leaving was say goodbye, adding on a common pet name. It was the mother-in-law’s reaction that really stopped them in their tracks. Everyone else seemed pretty used to these antics.
This Is a Lot
This mother-in-law didn’t bother to with any of the pretenses in-laws sometimes turn to. She’s just outright accused this person of stealing her son. As if that wasn’t enough, she jumped straight into the range of cruelty later on.
When someone is sick, they’ll need extra help and support. This mother-in-law wasn’t about to offer either of those things. With their partner “oblivious” to all this, it seems best to leave them both behind.
Pretty Much the Same, Right?
Sometimes, there are things that stand out about your in-laws but it isn’t something malicious or anything that turns into a fight. Still, they might say something here or there that makes you raise an eyebrow.
One that this person couldn’t look past was when their mother-in-law revealed that she thought dinosaurs and dragons were the same. Unfortunately, we’ve still yet to discover any evidence of prehistoric dragons.
Is That the Problem?
This is another person who seems like they had a harder-than-average pregnancy. So, the family should probably rally around and give her a break, right? They didn’t just skip out on that, they made it actively harder.
Even the smoothest pregnancy comes with nausea but this person clearly isn’t at fault for having additional health precautions to deal with. The things their mother-in-law said are way beyond rude — in fact, they’re quite heartless.
Right off the bat, it seems like this person isn’t the only one their mother-in-law is nasty to. It seems like both in-laws get the brunt of her wrath. The straw that really broke the camel’s back here is absolutely disrespectful.
While often not the same level of pomp and circumstance as a wedding, many couples renew their vows later in their marriage. During those vows, it’s best not to be disruptive, sarcastic, and rude.
A Little Theft
It’s bad enough to steal from your family to get money. However, it’s a straightforward motive that might not have anything to do with your personal relationship although it’d probably damage your relationship.
There’s no motive here other than hurting this person’s feelings. Who only steals things that have sentimental value to a person? At least this OP has managed to gain some perspective and find some peace with the situation.
This Is Horrendous
As we’ve said, losing someone is hard. In addition to that, it often comes with a lot of costs and a permanently altered financial situation.
When this person and their spouse could really use the money from their late husband’s structured settlement would have really helped. Their mother-in-law wasn’t ready to help out, though. Even the money she promised in the long run never appeared before she decided not to stay in contact anymore.
A Bit Strange
As we’ve covered, it isn’t always a big fight that puts you and your in-laws on the wrong foot. Sometimes, something they say just rubs you the wrong way.
We can only hope that this was a poorly thought-out joke from their brother-in-law. Even if it was, it seems like he was too fond of comments like this for this OP’s liking. It would definitely start to rub you the wrong way over time.
A lot can go wrong right before a wedding. This can cause the bride and groom a lot of stress if things start to go wrong. Luckily, the happy couple wasn’t too torn up about the cake topper.
The bad news was that it really bothered the mother-in-law who made sure to make it the bride’s problem. It sounds like this wasn’t the only time she had to deal with something like this.
No Effort to Get Along
It’s always awkward to meet your partner’s parents for the first time. However, it’s a lot more awkward if they don’t try to join the conversation you pose to them. That wasn’t the only problem either.
Instead, they dealt with a lot of silence and a lot of passive-aggression. Once they left the relationship, they couldn’t help but notice how many of these behaviors their ex had that caused problems in their relationship.
Pressure to Become In-Laws
When you’re young, you probably see your partner’s family a bit but they aren’t technically your in-laws until you finally tie the knot.
These parents seem like they just couldn’t wait to be in-laws. It was to the point that they might not have been thinking about marriage at all when this would-be mother-in-law starting in trying to convince them to get married. They’d just turned 18!
Standing Up for a Spouse
When you have a family member getting married, there are a lot of things you can say. Usually, something along the lines of “congratulations” is a safe bet.
The minute this mother-in-law made this horrific comment, everything stopped. Props to this fiancée for stopping everything to make sure that her mother couldn’t take anything or make her new spouse feel like that was part of he decision to marry him at all.
Engagements are another thing that you should be pretty congratulatory when it comes to. That’s a memo this soon-to-be mother-in-law seemed to have missed. As if that wasn’t enough, it seems like her complaints didn’t stop there.
She continued to be upset at the holiday plans each year. What is this person supposed to do? Never spend the holidays with their family again in favor of spending them all with a mother-in-law who doesn’t like them?
This Isn’t as Planned?
This one isn’t a story of an in-law that hates their child’s partner. This might actually be a bit closer to the opposite.
Instead of annoying them with rude comments, they came closer to smothering them with contact. Hours on the phone and this person could barely get a word in edgewise. Even once they left the relationship, it took a while until these long phones eventually stopped.
Barging Right In
There are some things that you have the way you have them for a reason. Most people don’t want to come home to their home completely rearranged from the way they like it.
It seems like it hasn’t stopped since they split either although now it’s at least confined to her grandchild’s room. We have to wonder how he feels about that. There’s not much excuse for cleaning the other child’s room it seems unless it was incredibly necessary.
What a Great Dinner
This person didn’t have to deal with any trouble from their mother-in-law. Their wife, on the other hand, had a few people working against her.
It seemed that this person’s mom and uncle teamed up to try and get their soon-to-be in-law out of their life. They even went as far as to try and buy this person out of the marriage. We would be offended by this, too!
A road trip that you’ve been saving for is an exciting proposal. However, if something comes up where you or someone close needs money, you might change your plans. This person’s mother was in dire straights and they were quick to help out.
However, it didn’t take long for things to start looking a little suspicious. Things went beyond suspicious when this mother-in-law managed to sneak in a comment about how “dangerous” road trips are anyways.
Usually, it’s parents-in-law that cause a problem for their children-in-law. For this person, though, it was their grandmother-in-law who started things off wrong.
As for this person, they were trying to take the family out to make an exciting announcement. It seems like this grandmother must have gotten caught up in a tradition that many couples find antiquated at this point. This would really get infuriating for a few reasons.
There are some things that you shouldn’t say no matter what. On the bright side, in this story, the spouse was actually invited on the cruise.
Yet, there’s still a major difference between being invited on a cruise and the people who invited you on the cruise not acting inviting at all. A comment like this would easily spoil the entire trip right away. Who says something like this?
Once again, we’ll highlight this — just because your in-laws stick out in an odd way doesn’t necessarily mean they’re rude. They might just surprise you with their behavior.
Christmas definitely brought some surprises for this couple with their in-laws. However, it wasn’t a matter of a great, exciting gift that shocked them. It was how random all of the gifts were. We guess windshield wiper fluid is useful, at least.
Don’t Say This
There are some things that people should never look down on. After all, not many people get a C-section for fun. On the other hand, it seems like that just wasn’t knowledge that this person’s mother-in-law was ready to accept.
Plus, even a passing glance at what goes into a C-section would probably stop you from calling it “the easy way out.” It seems like it was more than a bit out of line.
A Bit Much
There are some things that you wouldn’t imagine causing a problem. Why would you judge someone simply for buying parmesan cheese? This mother-in-law was ready to make it into a much bigger deal than it was.
Suddenly, one block of cheese became a sign of poor finances and a bad sign for the future. There’s blowing things out of proportion and then there’s making a decision based on this.
There are some things that you definitely shouldn’t do. For one, never mess with anyone’s birth control — no matter how little they might notice. It’s the sort of thing that has huge consequences that everyone has the right to make an informed decision about.
It seems like this person had to deal with a lot that her mother-in-law’s sons-in-law didn’t have to deal with nearly as much or in the same ways, no matter how much money they contribute.
Not every set of in-laws comes with so much strife. This person’s current in-laws are much kinder than the last set they dealt with.
In fact, it’s pretty telling that when she left her last husband, she was relieved to be free of his mother too. Even when this OP was just standing aside as her ex-husband created a mess, her former mother-in-law still found a way to blame them.
What a Horrible Habit
If you don’t eat a certain food — whether that’s for an allergy, moral reason, or just preference — it’s something that should be respected. This OP had her own reasons for avoiding pork.
It seems like her in-laws just couldn’t accept that. As a matter of fact, the MIL did everything in her power to make dinner as unwelcoming as possible for the newest member of the family.
Who Says That?
There are some things that just are the way they are. They might prove to bring some challenges at times but that doesn’t mean anyone should throw them in your face.
This mother-in-law, aptly dubbed a monster-in-law by this person, just couldn’t stay away from the topic that their child-in-law is adopted. Cue a slew of heartless comments over the years that undeniably takes a lot of patience to deal with.
There are some boundaries that you definitely shouldn’t cross. Breaking into someone’s house is a big one. Okay, maybe there was no “breaking” here but it definitely crosses a line to secretly make a copy of the key and sneak into someone’s house.
It would make for a shocking discovery that most people would also react to by changing the locks to make their home as private as they liked again.
Breaking the Number One Rule
This seems like a major problem when it comes to weddings. Most guests know not to do this and avoid wearing white to a wedding.
This particular wedding rule is so common, as a matter of fact, that you probably would find it hard to believe that this in-law had done it for any reason other than spite. Is a wedding really the time to hash out your personal feuds?
This Might Be the Worst
It seems like this person went through a lot and has lost some things that were important to them. This would be hard for anyone to deal with. When someone is dealing with something so difficult, it’s often a good idea to try and be sympathetic to their situation.
That’s one memo this mother-in-law studiously ignored. Instead, she opted to say the vilest, most cruel thing she could think of, all for them complaining about a dog’s misbehavior.
That’s Not How That Works
It sounds like this OP’s pregnancy was hard. So, you’d think that her family would really rally around her to try and help out. That’s not what this OP’s in-laws did, though.
Instead, her mother-in-law was about as unpleasant as possible. In fact, she had some demands that weren’t only unreasonable but completely not how any part of this works. It seems like you should be thankful that everyone was okay after an emergency — not make it about yourself in a situation like this.
What a Great Start
It seems like there are too many stories of threatened in-laws by the spouse’s presence. This wedding story is one to remember for all the wrong reasons.
If only it had stopped there, too. That wasn’t all, though. Instead, she kept this self-sourced feud going for no reason for decades. It seems like this particular round of gossip was an explosive point that this mother-in-law learned absolutely nothing from.
There are some hills that people choose to die on that are really unnecessary. It seems like this person was doing just fine without a degree to their name.
On top of that, it seems like the OP was processing some really hard news when their mother-in-law stepped in to make things even worse. Even without everything else going on, maybe don’t try to introduce your son to new potential romantic partners when he’s been in a relationship for a decade.
A List of Demands
Hosting your in-laws for two weeks can be a long time if you don’t get along. It’d be even more frustrating if your spouse was constantly “busy” when they were around. Left to spend some quality time together, it seems like it went as about as infuriatingly as it could have.
We can’t blame this person for being frustrated at a two-week-long critique of their home. We also can’t blame them for not wanting a spare set of pans so their mother-in-law would be happier on their visits.